Comments on: He used the “H” word http://fourtran.com/2008/06/24/he-used-the-h-word/ (actually, three Trans and a Cao) Sat, 22 Nov 2008 05:27:36 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.2.1 By: Shan http://fourtran.com/2008/06/24/he-used-the-h-word/#comment-1618 Shan Thu, 26 Jun 2008 01:11:56 +0000 http://fourtran.com/2008/06/24/he-used-the-h-word/#comment-1618 I'm very sorry you had to hear those words. They are hard to hear. I've heard those and other likeminded sentiments from daughter before. Thankfully it has been so very rare and I can recall each instance but each time it was a bit shocking. My personal experience with her has been when she was very young that she didn't even know what it meant that she was just feeling frustrations and parroting words. Often times it was when she was tired, sick, stressed about something in her life, or when she was feeling the stress of others around her. Developing all those emotions and not knowing how to deal with them - just knowing they need moments of release. In time, you and Loi will teach him how to cope with his frustrations. Once my daughter learned what the word hate really means and could grasp that concept, it really isn't a word I hear out of her mouth other than - Oh, we're having that for dinner, I hate that! =P Hang in there Mommy, he loves you very much. Try to get a bit of R&R if you can squeeze it in. A nice bubble bath, a good book, some writing time, whatever it is that you do that is just for you...you deserve some Jennifer moments to put some breathing space on the dark motherhood days. I’m very sorry you had to hear those words. They are hard to hear. I’ve heard those and other likeminded sentiments from daughter before. Thankfully it has been so very rare and I can recall each instance but each time it was a bit shocking. My personal experience with her has been when she was very young that she didn’t even know what it meant that she was just feeling frustrations and parroting words. Often times it was when she was tired, sick, stressed about something in her life, or when she was feeling the stress of others around her.

Developing all those emotions and not knowing how to deal with them - just knowing they need moments of release. In time, you and Loi will teach him how to cope with his frustrations. Once my daughter learned what the word hate really means and could grasp that concept, it really isn’t a word I hear out of her mouth other than - Oh, we’re having that for dinner, I hate that! =P

Hang in there Mommy, he loves you very much. Try to get a bit of R&R if you can squeeze it in. A nice bubble bath, a good book, some writing time, whatever it is that you do that is just for you…you deserve some Jennifer moments to put some breathing space on the dark motherhood days.

]]> By: Megan http://fourtran.com/2008/06/24/he-used-the-h-word/#comment-1617 Megan Wed, 25 Jun 2008 12:49:09 +0000 http://fourtran.com/2008/06/24/he-used-the-h-word/#comment-1617 Oohhhh. :( I'm so sorry. That must have felt horrible. Just know that he doesn't mean it. You are the most important person in the world to him. He loves his mama. Oohhhh. :( I’m so sorry. That must have felt horrible. Just know that he doesn’t mean it. You are the most important person in the world to him. He loves his mama.

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